Do you have companions?
For leaders who want to be loved
Pleasure is not accidental, especially in the spotlight. We begin with the first theme—friendship. Here’s a question for you:
Do you have companions, or are you simply convenient?
People will often be in your life because they know you are resourceful. Perhaps you’re financially capable, socially well-connected, or the kind of person who can walk into a room and introduce Mr B to person C, saying, “You must meet this person—they’re phenomenal at what they do.” Maybe you’re someone who naturally builds networks, covers every bill without hesitation, or stands strong in your friend group—the one everyone calls when things go wrong. You might even be the family member listed on everyone’s emergency contact form.
If that sounds like you, I’m speaking directly to you. Do you have companions, or are you convenient?
To be convenient means that others’ lives are better because of your presence—but the real question is, is your life better because of theirs?
It feels good to be needed. Don’t deny it. When everyone calls you and you feel tired, burned out, or exhausted, it’s easy to complain. Yet, part of the reason you like being called is that it fulfils your need to be needed. We all have that need. I’m not dismissing it.
But if you were the one in need, do you have companions? Do you have people who could fight for you when life gets difficult?
Here are a few questions I want you to consider—and I encourage you to get a journal and title it Journal Therapy, just for this platform. You’ll need it.
Question One: If you were in a hospital bed for six months, who would be by your bedside every day? Not because they’re paid to be there, not because they expect something from you—but because they genuinely care. If you were in a coma and it looked as though you might never wake up, who would hold your hand, hoping you would open your eyes? Who would be there to make a joke when you finally did? Write down the first five names that come to mind.
Question Two: If you failed, who would you call? When insecurity creeps in—when you feel you’re not good enough, not doing enough, or unworthy—who would you turn to? Picture that person in your mind.
Question Three: Why would you call them? Would you call because they’re the type to snap you out of it, saying, “Pull yourself together, you’ve got this”? Or because they’re comfortable being your companion in grief? There’s a difference. Anyone can offer a pep talk or call you strong, beautiful, or powerful—and yes, you need that. But you also need people who can sit with you in silence, sadness, fatigue—the ones who can simply be with you.
Question Four: Who would you call if you had absolutely nothing to do? No deadlines, no projects, no goals, no trips to plan—just a quiet day to exist. Vacations are easy, even if scheduling them isn’t. What’s harder, yet more meaningful, is having someone you can simply sit with in peace, breathing and being human.
If you were at the edge of a cliff, in that serene place where your voice could echo into the distance, who would you want to share that moment with? Those are your companions.
They are not people for whom you are merely convenient. Their presence makes your life more comfortable, more centred, more human.
Friendships go beyond beautiful pictures. You need people who can exist with you in the mundane, everyday moments of life. One of the best ways to simplify life in the spotlight is to have people with whom you can live an ordinary, grounded existence.
I hope this resonated with you. Take these questions, sit with them, and answer them honestly. If it takes you a week, that’s perfectly fine. Journal therapy doesn’t demand completion—it asks for willingness. Be willing to listen to yourself. Take yourself on a date to hear your own heart.
See you in the next video.
Bye.
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