Why do I feel hollow after giving in?

Postsex Emptiness -Ask Liza Express Answers

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That emptiness isn’t about the sex—it’s about the emotional misalignment. When your body engages but your heart withdraws, you create internal disconnect. You gave access to a part of you that your soul wasn’t ready to share. The hollow feeling is the cost of crossing your own boundary, not the act itself.

If you’ve ever used sex as escape, validation, connection, or distraction, the aftermath often leaves a vacuum. The high fades, and the unmet need remains. The body was touched, but the person inside you wasn’t seen.

This emptiness also shows up when:

you said yes out of pressure, not desire

the connection wasn’t emotionally safe

you used sex to fill loneliness

the act reminded you of past trauma

your boundaries were crossed subtly or silently

Emptiness is your soul’s protest. It’s your inner voice saying, “This didn’t honor me.” The good news? That emptiness can guide you toward more aligned choices. When you start choosing sex from desire, not fear or approval, the hollow space disappears.

Your body knows when you betray it. It also celebrates when you honor it.

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tolusefrancis Toluse Francis is a renowned mental health therapist, certified life coach, trainer, and consultant dedicated to promoting emotional well-being and resilience. Therapy and Coaching Expertise Approach: He uses evidence-based techniques from behavioral sciences, including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). Specialties: His areas of expertise include: Anxiety and Depression Trauma, Grief, and Loss Relationship Issues Habits and Addiction Workplace Mental Health Focus: He is committed to helping individuals move past negative experiences, overcome poor mental health, and focus on their future with enthusiasm. Professional Roles and Advocacy Founder: He is the principal and CEO of Reuel Consulting Ltd, a firm specializing in helping organizations and individuals move toward measurable mental health action. Leadership: He has served as the African Regional Vice President and a Board Director for the World Federation for Mental Health (WFMH), overseeing activities in the African region. Public Profile: He is a sought-after writer, public speaker, and media contributor on mental health, personal growth, and emotional intelligence, working to break mental health stigmas. Toluse Francis holds a B.Sc. in Biochemistry and a Diploma in Mental Health and Psychology. He has over 7 years of experience in the field, with sessions typically conducted online.