What boundaries will help me feel proud after now as a virgin?

The boundaries you set are entirely dependent on the results you want. If, for example, you want to be able to say that nobody has ever touched you or that you’ve never kissed anybody before, then of course your boundary is simply not to kiss anybody.

If you’re saying that you never want someone to be able to describe what your body looks like, well, you could go and have sex in a dark room and they wouldn’t be able to describe what your body looks like. Boundaries are always tied to the outcome you desire.

So the real question to ask yourself is this: what will make you feel proud later? What will make you feel proud sexually?

For some people, what would make them feel proud sexually is knowing that when they got into a serious relationship, they were able to give it to their partner hot. Well then, that raises the question: what are you reading now? Who are you listening to?

Many people assume that studying sexuality means watching pornography, but no, that’s not sexual study. There are a lot of resourceful sex education materials, and this blog post is one of them. These kinds of materials actually help you prepare for sex.

You also need to consider what you’re doing regarding your body. What are you doing regarding your mind? How are you preparing to be the person who is not always “not in the mood”? These are the things that will help you feel proud later.

Define what pride would look like for you.

Find what needs to happen for you to feel proud — and then pay whatever the price is.