How can I explore my desires safely while single

Exploring Your Desires Safely While Single

Paying Attention to What Awakens Your Desires

How can you explore your desires safely while single? I won’t call pornography safe, and I won’t call masturbation safe, simply because of how easy it is to become addicted to them. What you really want to start doing is paying attention to the things that make you want to explore.

Noticing the Moments That Spark Curiosity

For example, you might be watching a film and a kissing scene comes on. Something about the kiss makes you think, I want to do that. It’s not the kiss itself—what was the journey that led to that feeling? Or perhaps you’re having a conversation with a friend, and something in that moment makes you feel a little tingly. Are you paying attention to that?

Understanding What You Want Before Acting

Until you begin to notice the things that awaken your desires, you can’t truly know what to explore. And because you don’t yet know what you want to explore, you also can’t know what “safe” means for you. Without that clarity, you may act recklessly or use a definition of safety that isn’t actually aligned with your needs

Defining What Safety Means to You

For some people, “safe” means doing something that doesn’t put them at risk of pregnancy. But that is very different from someone whose definition of safety is avoiding situations where they may be disrespected. Some people are willing to explore certain kinks and don’t mind the consequences that come with being the submissive or whatever role they choose within that dynamic.

Safety Is Personal

But that may not be safe for you. What is safe is ultimately defined by you, and once you’ve decided what your own parameters are, then you can explore within those boundaries.