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17.  The Denial of Biology

That’s a lie. You’re living in denial. Whether they go to a polished school or not, they will grow in height, they’ll grow in structure, they’ll grow in intelligence. Their intelligence might not be verbal because they didn’t go to a regular school, but they will still be intelligent because it’s part of them. It’s part of what they were structured to be. They are humans. They will grow.

18.  The Consequences of Avoiding Sexual Conversations

We keep denying sexual conversations. We keep running away from them completely. And when the urges begin to come, young people are pressured to understand what is happening with their bodies. And when they find pornography and it’s arousing, they don’t know what is happening, but they like what’s happening. So they stay with it.

19.  How Denial Pushes Children Towards Pornography

By denying the conversation completely, we’ve sent them over to porn to learn what they should have learnt from us. This takes me to number three: shaming sex education.

20.  Shaming Sex Education

We’ve taken the stance that if you know about sex, you have to be a promiscuous person. Your child is going to be taught reproductive organs in class. Are you already screaming that they shouldn’t do that? Yes.

21.  Context Matters in Sex Education

Comprehensive sex education might be a problem at certain ages, especially in the African clime. The Westernised comprehensive sexuality education is a bit too raw, if that word works, for a lot of Africans because of the visuals and some of the terms used in class. But that doesn’t mean your child shouldn’t understand basics.

22.  The Importance of Understanding the Basics

Basics like what a vagina is. Basics like what a penis is. Basics like a penis has to enter a vagina and release sperm inside for a girl to get pregnant and release semen for a lady to be pregnant. Those basics have to be understood.

23.  Education as Protection

It makes it easier even for your child to come home and say, “Oh, A, B, and C tried to put his penis in my vagina,” or “So-and-so tried to touch my penis today in school.” By giving them education, what you’ve done is fortify them against certain types of abuse because now they know that if someone touches them there, they can expressly mention what was touched, not “pee pee”. “Pee pee” can be anything.

24.  Why Parents Cannot Afford to Shame Sex Education

You want to educate your child. You can’t afford to keep shaming sex education. The more we shame sex education, the more we reinforce number two, which is denial of biology. Whether we deny it verbally or not, it will happen. We will experience it.

25.  Shaming Sexual Failures

And in also shaming sex education, we shame sexual failures. Sexual failures like teenagers getting pregnant. A teenager doesn’t wake up and say, “Oh, I want to get pregnant at 13.” They don’t plan to. It happens because someone was misinformed at some point or someone did not understand consequences.

26.  Teenage Pregnancy and Lack of Information

Very few teenagers make up their mind to get pregnant at 13 or 14 or to impregnate a girl at 15. Very few of them intend to. They probably were never correctly sexually educated. And so when they saw pleasure, they couldn’t deny it. They enjoyed pleasure without understanding consequences such as pregnancy and STIs. And that would have been resolved if we had had proper sex education.