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45. Understanding Children, Pleasure, and Early Sexual Awareness

We still tend to think that only older people struggle with pornography. We still imagine that only older people have addiction problems, but we are wrong. Babies touch their vagina for a reason: it is pleasurable. Small boys touch their penis for a reason: it is pleasurable.Babies become excited when you take off their nappy and fresh air hits their bum. It feels good. Your baby understands pleasure.

46. Why Conversations About Sexuality Matter

We cannot keep living in denial. This is why you have to consciously tell children these things and have these conversations. We cannot keep sweeping everything under the carpet, because if we do not address it, pornography is always waiting.

47. The Impact of Pornography

The downside of pornography is that it is addictive, and it does not even present the facts. People can be intellectually sound, emotionally okay, and have no trauma from home, yet still end up with a distorted perspective of sex simply because of pornography. It can affect their marriage, damage the sexual relationship, cause divorce, and lead to trauma for their children—all because we did not do our homework as adults around them.

48.The Importance of Adult Knowledge

Another issue is adults not knowing enough. Last year, I was speaking to a married woman about the vagina and menstruation. I explained to her that menstruation is not the eggs released from the ovaries melting into blood, because that is what we were taught in Nigerian schools between around 2000 and 2011. I am sure that curriculum has been corrected by now, and if it has not, that is truly sad.