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40. Being Conscious of the Decisions We Make

At every point, people are making decisions. But are they conscious? Are they conscious that if a man is inviting me into his room at 7 p.m., and I'm sexually attracted to him, and the room is dark or the light is coloured, and there is an atmosphere and blues playing in the background—am I conscious that that's a very nice environment to be touchy? It doesn't mean we have to be touchy, but it's a nice environment to be. But do I know? As an adult, that's what you want to make sure you're doing.

41. How Our Experiences Shape Society

This person doesn't have to be your child. Whatever this person is affects society. Someone abused me. I abused someone. That person abused someone I knew. Guess what? We were all kids. All of this happened before any of us turned thirteen. We didn't know what it was. No adult was talking about it. We were exposed to information we should not have been exposed to, obviously.

42. Looking Back and Asking What Could Have Been Different

Now, as an adult, when I look back, I wonder what would have been different if someone had kept a pulse on what was happening in society. If someone had realised that sexual assault was no longer just in boarding schools, that they were now in day schools. If someone had kept a finger on what was happening in society, that girls don't just mess up with boys, they also mess up with themselves.

43. The Shifting Landscape of Exposure

If someone had kept a finger on what was happening in society, that pornography was no longer something children got exposed to at seventeen, that they could be exposed to pornography at fourteen. One of the reasons I watch my blood pressure till today is because when I was in SS1, I came back home and my friend from primary school had high blood pressure at fourteen. I was shocked.

44. Challenging What We Assume About Age and Experience

It shook my knowledge of health because I used to think older people were the only ones who had those kinds of problems. That's what happens to us as adults. We still think it's only older people who have sex problems.