Distorted Desire: Has porn changed how I see real people's bodies?

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Distorted Desire: Has porn changed how I see real people's bodies?

Yes—pornography rewires perception. It conditions your brain to respond to exaggerated, choreographed, and hyperstimulated sexual scenarios that don’t reflect real human intimacy. Over time, this distorts your expectations of what bodies should look like, how sex should feel, and what arousal should require.

Neurologically, repeated exposure trains your arousal template toward intensity, novelty, and fantasy. This makes real bodies—normal, imperfect, emotionally present—feel “less exciting” compared to the edited, amplified imagery of porn. It doesn’t mean you’re broken; it means your brain has adapted to an environment it wasn’t designed for.

The beauty of neuroplasticity is that it can be reversed. When you reduce porn consumption and increase real, emotionally grounded experiences, the brain recalibrates. Desire becomes more realistic, relational, and connected.

You haven’t lost the ability to appreciate real people—you’ve simply overstimulated a system that was meant for connection, not consumption. With intentional healing, attraction becomes human again, not hyper performance driven.

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tolusefrancis Toluse Francis is a renowned mental health therapist, certified life coach, trainer, and consultant dedicated to promoting emotional well-being and resilience. Therapy and Coaching Expertise Approach: He uses evidence-based techniques from behavioral sciences, including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). Specialties: His areas of expertise include: Anxiety and Depression Trauma, Grief, and Loss Relationship Issues Habits and Addiction Workplace Mental Health Focus: He is committed to helping individuals move past negative experiences, overcome poor mental health, and focus on their future with enthusiasm. Professional Roles and Advocacy Founder: He is the principal and CEO of Reuel Consulting Ltd, a firm specializing in helping organizations and individuals move toward measurable mental health action. Leadership: He has served as the African Regional Vice President and a Board Director for the World Federation for Mental Health (WFMH), overseeing activities in the African region. Public Profile: He is a sought-after writer, public speaker, and media contributor on mental health, personal growth, and emotional intelligence, working to break mental health stigmas. Toluse Francis holds a B.Sc. in Biochemistry and a Diploma in Mental Health and Psychology. He has over 7 years of experience in the field, with sessions typically conducted online.