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36. Pornography as a Form of Solace

Pornography becomes a kind of solace because young people can see themselves in the scenes they watch.

37. How We Fund Pornography and Fail to Grow With Young People

This part is touchy even for me as a therapist because what I knew yesterday might no longer be functional today.Three years ago, when teenagers came for therapy and I asked them what they used for comfort, it was American movies. In 2021, everyone was suddenly speaking about Korean movies.

And so the kind of romance some teenagers come and talk to me about is no longer the American smooth, swooshy, hardcore, touchy-feely romance. It is the Korean “wait for twenty episodes before you get one kiss on the head” kind of romance. That’s a change. But again, that’s not everybody.

38. Keeping a Finger on the Pulse

It means that as a parent, as an elder person who has teenagers and young adults around them, you need to put your fingers on the pulse of society—on conversation, on trends, on sexual trends. when we had this challenge on TikTok or Snapchat, “Put Your Head on My Shoulder”, and young ladies were going bonkers over it. Some people found a way to remove the filter and could actually tell who was behind the dance videos.

Some parents saw it and were shocked that their children were dancing to those kinds of things. But the fact is, they were never following up. Because if you were following up, you would have known that was a possibility. You would have had conversations. You would have helped this person sort out their values.

39. Supporting Conscious Decision-Making

Then, if they go against those values, you would realise that this is a decision. You want to make sure at every point in time that you are helping teenagers and young people make conscious decisions—conscious ones.