How we all fund pornography 2

9.  The Illusion of “Free”

It doesn’t ask you questions. It doesn’t ask you to call back after a good night. It doesn’t attach all the emotional drama to it.

It looks like free-to-air. And who doesn’t want “free”? But the problem is, porn is also addictive. Porn has the capacity to mess up your future sex life because, if that is the only perspective of sex you have, you develop unrealistic expectations of your partner—how you want your body to look, how you want your penis to be, how you want your vagina to look, how you want them to moan, how you want them to flip—whatever it is you’ve been watching.

10.  How Adults Fund the Industry

As adults, we fund pornography. We keep that industry rolling. We keep that industry making more money.

We keep that industry functional because people are not always going there deliberately. Some people are—but others go there because we have failed at our own responsibilities. And that is what I am going to be discussing: six key things we have been doing that have been funding pornography.

 11. Giving False or Incomplete Information

I have heard the story not once or twice or thrice where a young lady thinks that if a man touches her shoulders, she’ll get pregnant, because that’s how she was educated. “If a man touches you, you’ll get pregnant.” “If you touch a girl, she’ll get pregnant.”

And so the fear of pregnancy becomes the only thing keeping this person from misbehaving.

12.  The Consequences of Incomplete Information

What we have also done with that incomplete information is mess up their social life. They’re not interacting with the opposite sex.

They’re not building resilience—sexual resilience. They’re not building perspective. They’re not becoming their own person. They’re not building internal strength. They don’t understand the concept of friendships, and we see this a lot with people in their 20s.

13. A Culture of Fear Around Friendship

Every little friendship they have, people are already freaking out. “Is he trying to ask me out?” “Is she liking me?” Why?

Because when they were teenagers—when they were supposed to be building friendships—they didn’t with the opposite sex. Every time they came around the opposite sex, all they were taught was sex

We keep introducing the opposite sex to people as sex.