False intimacy-What am I really craving when I open those videos at night?
Pornography Addiction -Ask Liza Express Answers
You’re not just craving sex—you’re craving connection. Pornography offers a counterfeit version of intimacy: predictable, available on demand, without vulnerability, rejection, or emotional effort. When you open those videos at night, especially in moments of isolation or stress, you’re reaching for something that soothes deeper needs: comfort, affirmation, companionship, or emotional numbing.
Nighttime behaviors often reveal core wounds. Many people turn to porn when they feel lonely, unseen, overwhelmed, or emotionally disconnected. Porn becomes the “easier intimacy”—a space where you can feel momentarily desired, stimulated, and distracted without having to risk closeness with a real person.
The craving is legitimate; the outlet is misaligned. What you want is to feel valued, soothed, or emotionally grounded. Porn offers a shortcut, but it also widens the gap between what you truly desire and what you settle for.
Understanding the actual need behind the urge is a power move. When you recognize the emotional hunger you’re trying to quiet—fear, boredom, shame, exhaustion—you can begin to meet it in healthier, sustainable ways. Real intimacy takes courage, but it’s the only path that truly satisfies what porn temporarily silences.
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