Why do I still relive the moment as if it just happened?

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Why do I still relive the moment as if it just happened?

Flashbacks are the brain’s way of trying to process unfinished business. Trauma gets stored in fragments—sensations, smells, images—not in a timeline. So your body reacts as though an event is happening now. This is why a smell, tone, or touch can instantly trigger a full replay.

Your brain didn’t fail; it froze. During trauma, the prefrontal cortex (logic) goes offline, and the body stores the moment as raw survival data. Because it wasn’t safely processed at the time, it shows up years later asking for acknowledgment, integration, and closure.

Healing happens when the brain reprocesses the memory in a safe environment. Through therapy modalities like EMDR, somatic experiencing, or trauma-focused CBT, your brain can finally complete the cycle it started years ago.

You’re not “stuck in the past.” Your brain is trying to hand you a file it never managed to file away. Once processed, the memory remains, but the emotional charge collapses — and that is where freedom begins.

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