How can I feel again without drowning in pain?
Learning to feel -Ask Liza Express Answers
Feeling again requires pacing, not pressure. You can’t jump from numbness to full emotional capacity overnight—that’s overwhelming and counterproductive. The key is learning to feel in manageable doses, like dipping your toes into water instead of being thrown into the deep end.
Start with microemotions: noticing small shifts—tension, warmth, irritation, comfort, fatigue. These lowintensity feelings help your nervous system build tolerance. Once you can hold small emotions, you slowly expand capacity for deeper ones.
Another strategy is somatic grounding—connecting to the body through breathwork, gentle movement, or sensory awareness. When the body feels safe, emotions surface without overwhelming you.
You also need emotional containment. This means having tools or people who help you process feelings without spiraling—journaling, therapy, safe relationships, group support, or spiritual practices.
The goal isn’t to unleash all your emotions at once; it’s to create a controlled environment where they can rise gently and safely. Emotional numbness protects you from drowning—healing teaches you how to swim.
You don’t start by diving into the deep. You start in the shallow end. And over time, you’ll rediscover that you can feel deeply without losing yourself.
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