When Is Lubrication Emotional And Not Just Physical?
Physical lubrication happens when you’ve been kissed, smooched, touched, and your body reacts by getting wet. But this doesn’t always happen automatically, because the process requires a signal from your brain telling your body, “Oh yes, it’s go time.”
If you’re mentally exhausted, distracted by important thoughts, or even angry with the person trying to make out with you or make love to you (or make love with you, depending on what you are both willing to commit to), you might find that you’re pretty dry. It’s not because you don’t like the person; it’s simply because you’re not present. You’re not mentally and emotionally there.
After a grievous situation, you may feel willing to have a lot of sex, but that doesn’t mean you are biologically ready. If you’ve lost someone, gone through something painful, or lost a job, you may crave something your body considers fun—like sex. The priority of sex can suddenly feel heightened, but your body may not be ready because, mentally, something entirely different is going on. In that moment, sex becomes the medication.
It’s important to understand the dynamic of what your emotions are at any given time. There are moments when sex becomes medication, but you also need to be careful that it doesn’t become something you depend on to avoid feeling certain emotions.
That’s how many people get into masturbation and pornography—by using sex as medication.
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