When is it okay to enjoy intimacy after infidelity?

Healing After Infidelity

Now, when it comes to what time is okay, and when it is okay for you and your partner to start enjoying sex again after infidelity, what you should realise is that healing from infidelity is not just about rushing back to start having sex. I have said this consistently.

Why It Takes Time

It could always take several months, it could take a while, it could take some time before you are able to have sex again. And this sex should come from connection, not from pressure.

Let Intimacy Grow Naturally

That is why we always say you should not focus on the question, “When is it okay to enjoy intimacy again?” Because when it is okay, you will know. You will be free, and you will be open to it.

Rebuilding Trust and Communication

Of course, you are rebuilding trust. You are repeating communication. You are repeating emotional closeness. If you focus on these things, with time intimacy will grow from there, and naturally sex will start happening again without force.

Sex Should Come From Genuine Connection

This time, you are not feeling pressure to want to have sex, but it is coming from the genuine connection the two of you are having. When there is emotional honesty, consistent assurance, and a sense that the two of you are choosing each other again, you are not doing this out of fear or pressure, but from a genuine desire to heal.

Rebuilding the Relationship

It is a genuine desire to rebuild your marriage and rebuild your life. Trust me, sex will just flow.

The Simple Answer

If I am to give a simple answer, I would say: the best time for you to have sex again after infidelity is when neither party feels pressured to have sex. It should be based on the connection you share, on the acceptance, the forgiveness, the healing, and the transparency. It is based on this that the two of you begin to have sex again.