What are the small steps that can rebuild your trust with you body?

Small Steps That Can Rebuild Your Trust With Your Body

1. Enjoying Your Body

You want to start with simply enjoying your body. Enjoying your body looks like dressing up and wearing what you actually want to wear, not what other people want you to wear. This applies to everything—from your outer garments, to your inner garments, to your choice of lingerie. You want to wear what you honestly feel like wearing.

2. Knowing Your Body

You also want to know your body. What does it mean when you feel cold? What does it mean when your heart starts to beat? Are you listening to yourself? Are you dating yourself? Are you paying attention to yourself?

3. Knowing Your Body Sexually—with Your Partner

Some people suggest masturbating as a way to learn their body, but as much as that looks like a solution, it can create a new problem where you start to isolate your partner bodily. So that’s usually not the best way to learn your body sexually. One way you can learn your body sexually is to come to sex with your partner knowing that you are experimenting. Every sexual experience can feel like an experiment where you’re both trying something new.

4. Growing Together, Not Apart

If you grow without your partner, they are going to be left behind. And the downside of them being left behind is that they can’t bring you pleasure. The other downside is that you have to always figure out how to do things by yourself. That’s not the kind of experience you want in a long-term committed sexual relationship. Otherwise, you’re all going to get frustrated. Knowing your body, therefore, also includes bringing your partner in.

5. Paying Attention to What You Feel

Finally, you want to pay attention to what you feel with sex every time it happens. Do you feel rested? Do you feel anxious? Was it good? Can you articulate what you felt? Can you communicate that without feeling bad? If you can, then your body starts to learn that, okay, this is a safe environment. This is working. This is not working. Let’s change this and let’s change that. That level of detail helps you.