Is It Wrong to Enjoy Intimacy Again After a Loss?

People often carry expectations—both internal and external—that make them feel guilty when they begin to enjoy life or intimacy again after losing a loved one.

Feeling guilty about enjoying sex or intimacy in your marriage after a loss is common, but it does not mean you are dishonouring the child or the loved one who passed away.

Healing never requires forgetting; even after many years, memories can still bring tears, and that does not invalidate your healing process.

True healing simply means allowing yourself to slowly reconnect with life again and giving yourself permission to feel joy when it comes.

Guilt is a normal reaction to loss because grief naturally creates a sense that nothing good should happen for a while.

This is why many people unconsciously reduce or avoid anything that brings pleasure, laughter, or excitement—including sex.

However, intimacy or sexual connection does not erase grief, nor does it diminish the memory of the person who was lost.

Instead, intimacy can be one of the ways individuals or couples respond to grief and cope with the emotional pain that the family has experienced.

You are not doing anything wrong, immoral, or unholy by reconnecting intimately with your spouse while still carrying grief.